How to Talk with Your Family About Molestation

Molestation can only happen when secrecy exists. It’s in the best interest of the molester that the importance of not telling anyone, that others “might not understand”. It’s such an ingrained theme in the relationship that it is one of the hardest things to break – the silence. In my situation, I actually told an adult about two years into being molested, and he didn’t believe me. So I kept to myself for another 7 years before I finally decided to tell someone…

Telling your family can be hard. What if they don’t believe you? Or say it’s your fault? Or can’t handle it and sends you away?

I can say that your story is YOUR story, and no one can take it away from you. If you tell the truth (and tell it often), no one can debate the facts with you.

In my situation, once I made the decision to tell my parents, I was fortunate that they were incredibly supportive of me. They were very angry and upset, but not at me, and I took a step towards healing on the day I finally told them. The first sentence is the hardest, it does get easier as you continue your story.

Talking about it helps create a support system for you, so you are no longer alone. That in itself is a priceless gift. But talking about it also a very important part of you taking some control back in your life, and really can contribute to an increase in self esteem. It helps to build trust.

No kid, or adult, should have to have this conversation with his family. But I and countless others had to.

In this situation let justice run its course: 30 years is 30 years. No early parole for Don Corley.